It’s no question that HGTV‘s Chip and Joanna Gaines became famous for their ability to flip homes, but throughout their time in the spotlight, people have also noticed something else about them — their marriage is solid.
Though they’re, self-admittedly, not a “match made in Heaven,” Chip and Joanna have figured out a way to make their life together a healthy, happy, thriving one.
Since Chip and Joanna work alongside each other, happiness hinges on finding and maintaining a good work-life balance.
“Two things come to mind. This is really not for everybody so don’t feel insecure or try to force something if it’s not,” Chip said.
Sparknotes: if working together is going to cause issues, don’t do it.
He went on to say, “The negative is if it’s not meant to be, don’t try to force it. It is not for everybody. And don’t worry about it that it’s not for everybody. Who cares. And then the positive is when you decide to go for it, just really weigh on each other’s strengths and try not to cross over into each other’s lanes.
That was one thing that I learned pretty early on is that… I am a big creative by nature so I was always stepping in her universe and I was always thankful she wasn’t micromanaging my side of the business so it worked, but I would come in and have these bold opinions about everything … And then after about a year of sort of wrestling with each other like that, I realized A: I wasn’t as good at it as I thought I was, so that was a problem, and then B: Why not let her really go for it in her way?
And so Jo and I really have created boundaries to some extent for one another and it just helps us both flourish. I am her biggest cheerleader when it comes to the things that she’s rocking and rolling in and vice versa in my category. Just encourage one another’s strengths and not be so particular that you constantly butt heads over it.”
They also went on to say that, if working with or alongside your spouse is a stressor, you can always look into hiring a third party to come in and help.
“Get a mediator, get a designer… If you can’t figure it out bring in someone that will help so you don’t end up ending your marriage,”Joanna said. “And allow yourself room to make mistakes. We always allow on every budget, we have a side, 10 percent contingency as I may pick the wrong pink color. Just always have it so it’s not the end of the world and you’re not so stressed out.”
Chip was also quick to say that humor plays a big role in his and Joanna’s relationship.
“You can either bring in a designer now or you can bring in an attorney later. Your choice,” Chip said. “And a sense of humor is a big deal for us. We got lucky in that.”