Kelly Clarkson is the voice of all little girls who sing into their hairbrush microphones and watch themselves perform in their bedroom mirrors. She’s a small town Texas girl who had big dreams and an even bigger voice. Growing up, Kelly had disappointments and heartaches, and sometimes those spilled over into her adult life. Her songs share the pain that so many of us have experienced, and those life lessons from our first “American Idol” winner are shared in her songs.
1. Letting go of things not meant for you is sweet freedom.
Liking the idea of someone more than you like the actual person is dissatisfying for both of you. When you let go of the person, it opens you up to the availability of what you truly want. I’m pretty sure it’s Buddhism, or a law of the universe, or just Kelly’s way of telling us not to be held down by settling for someone who doesn’t treat you well.
How come I’ve never heard you say
I just want to be with you?
Guess you never felt that way
But since you been gone
I can breathe for the first time
I’m so moving on
Thanks to you
Now I get what I want
Since you been gone
2. Your name being screamed as a curse word can be hilarious.
Steve Carell is everyone’s favorite 40-Year-Old Virgin. During this classic scene he ad-libbed his outbursts while his chest was waxed. Words with hard consonant sounds being screamed in a pain response let you know someone is really feeling it.
3. Not fitting in can push you to your destiny.
Kelly grew up in Burleson, Texas. She knew she wouldn’t be able to follow her musical dreams there, but leaving everything she knew was scary. Taking the risk of leaving to audition for American Idol changed the trajectory of her life, but she still remembers where she comes from.
Grew up in a small town
And when the rain would fall down
I’d just stare out my window
Dreaming of what could be
And if I’d end up happy
I would pray (I would pray)
4. Vulnerability can be powerful.
One of the best things about Kelly Clarkson is her ability to connect through her emotional songwriting and performances. Bringing Keith Urban to tears is no small feat, and struggling to sing a song written about her complicated relationship with her father shows us that sharing our pain can be a powerful device for human connection.
But piece by piece he collected me
Up off the ground where you abandoned things, yeah
Piece by piece he filled the holes
That you burned in me at six years old
And you know,
He never walks away
He never asks for money,
He takes care of me
He loves me
Piece by piece he restored my faith
That a man can be kind and a father could… stay
5. Some of the best things in life come from hard lessons.
The man to whom Kelly refers in “Piece by Piece” is her husband, Brandon Blackstock. Brandon is Kelly’s manager’s son. Kelly’s manager is Narvel Blackstock, who was married to Reba McEntire for 26 years until October 2015. After “Because of You” was a critically-acclaimed hit for Kelly, the duet version with Reba McEntire went on to be a hit on the country charts again.
I will not make
The same mistakes that you did
I will not let myself
Cause my heart so much misery
I will not break
The way you did, you fell so hard
I’ve learned the hard way
To never let it get that far
6. Proving someone who underestimated you wrong is delightful.
Kelly wants you to know that whatever it is people think you can’t do, they are dead wrong. Now get out there and make your dreams come true. It’s what Kelly wants for you.
You think you got the best of me
Think you’ve had the last laugh
Bet you think that everything good is gone
Think you left me broken down
Think that I’d come running back
Baby you don’t know me, cause you’re dead wrong