It’s been said that you can learn a lot about how a guy will treat you by watching the way he treats his Mama. When I met my husband over 9 years ago, I felt like I’d won the lottery, but with that lottery-winning-feeling came the feeling that maybe it was all too good to be true. I kept waiting and watching for red flags – anything that might be a deal breaker. Truth be told, I was just a little skeptical that all the good qualities I’d seen in him were just part of a gentleman charade. After a month of dating him, I met his parents, and that’s when I knew he was the real deal – a true gentleman and a man of character because you can’t fake who you are around your Mama. A man’s true colors are bound to come out around his parents. By watching how he treats his mom, you’ll get a glimpse of how he will treat you in the long term.
Here are 5 qualities you’ll want to watch for when you see your man interacting with his Mama:
1. Love and Affection
Watch how a man greets his Mama. Does he still give his Mama hugs, or does he think he’s too old for that? Sure, some guys aren’t super-affectionate, but we’re talking about the one woman in his life who bore him and raised him. If he doesn’t show warmth and affection to his Mama, then you’ve got to ask yourself if he will give you the cold shoulder when he’s having an “off day.”
Respect is one of those qualities that’s harder to qualify, but you’ll know when you see it. Does your man look his Mama in the eye? Does he give her his full attention when she’s trying to tell him something? This is an important quality to watch for because you can bet that he’ll give you the same respect and attention (or lack thereof) a few months or years down the road.
Look for a man who is kind to his Mama. Does he offer to help around the house – to carry the groceries in from the car or give a hand where he can? This is the kind of guy who will treat you courteously and not take you for granted and expect you to do everything around the house. And, if your man talks harshly to his Mama – that’s a red flag that you don’t want to ignore. Run as fast as you can.
4. A Willingness to Listen
Now, I’m not saying a full grown man needs to do everything that his mom tells him to do, but find a man who will listen to his mother’s advice, even if he, ultimately, doesn’t do what she suggested. He shows respect to his mother just by listening to her. If he doesn’t listen to her, will he ever listen to you?
Look for the kind of guy who doesn’t blink an eye when his mom pulls out his baby pictures. Sure, he may feel dumb that she’s showing you pictures of him in diapers, but the point is, that he’s not letting his pride keep his Mama from reminiscing and enjoying the moment. There’s something to be said about a guy who puts others peoples’ happiness above his own.
So, next time you go meet the parents, pay extra attention to how your man treats his mom. Fast-forward a few years, and that’s how he’ll treat you – for better or worse.