For a marriage to work, both people have to learn to lose the “it’s my way or the highway” attitude and learn to compromise here and there. Some of these sacrifices aren’t too big of a deal while other sacrifices feel a little more weighty and hard. It’s all part of learning how to navigate your way down the road of marriage.
8 Sacrifices You Have to Be Willing to Make in Marriage:
1. Playing the field.
If this is a hard sacrifice for you to make, then you probably shouldn’t get married (or have gotten married in the first place). You found your fish in the sea, and it’s time to give up looking for anyone else.
2. Not always being right.
I love to be right and hate to be wrong, but I’ve learned to give up being right all the time for the sake of my marriage. Conflicts in marriage aren’t always black and white with one person on the right side and one person on the wrong side. Marriage forces you to learn to see conflict from someone else’s point of view, and, hopefully, from there you can give up your entitlement to always being right.
3. Having the ultimate say-so in dinner and entertainment choices.
Chick flick or action movie? Chinese food or Italian food? When you get married, you can’t always have your cake and eat it too. You learn to compromise or to take turns choosing where to eat or what to watch on TV. It’s not a huge sacrifice, but sometimes it can feel like it.
4. Sharing the bed.
A queen-sized bed is not as big as it may seem. It gets even smaller when you’re married and have animals or kids that join you in the middle of the night. It’s the elbow in the face at 3 a.m. or waking up to realize you don’t have any covers – that’s the real sacrifice of sharing a bed. A king sized bed helps with that, but it still doesn’t keep you from dealing with your spouse’s snoring or his or her alarm going off and waking you up before you have to be awake.
5. Choosing how you spend your free time.
This isn’t a huge deal before couples have kids because both people can pretty much do whatever they want, but when you add kids to the equation, it gets a little trickier. You learn to plan ahead and to trade off watching the kids, but you may still miss out on fun times with friends every now and then.
6. Splitting holidays with family and in-laws.
Making holidays work for both sides of the family isn’t as easy as it sounds, and it can be hard to give up spending time with your family in favor of spending time with your in-laws. The best thing to do is to remember that it’s just as hard for your in-laws to share their daughter or son with your family too.
7. Dealing with someone else’s messes.
Marriage means dealing with double the dishes, double the trash, double the laundry, and double the mess. Sometimes the weight of that mess falls equally on both people, and sometimes there is one person who tidies up more than the other. When you’re the tidier one, the other person’s mess can feel like a burden, and it can be a sacrifice to deal with the other person’s messes.
8. Making financial decisions as a team.
I’m a saver, and I married a spender. If I had it my way, we would save just about every penny because you never know when those rainy days might come. I’ve learned to compromise here and there, and so has he. Sharing money and making financial decisions together isn’t always easy, but we’re both better off when we are on the same page together.
The truth is marriage is full of sacrifices – more than just those listed here. Marriage takes work, and sacrificing for the other person is just part of that, and while it might not always be easy, it’s certainly a small price to pay to be with the person you love the most.
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