A Southern Girl’s Guide to Calming Wedding Day Nerves


It’s natural to wake up with butterflies in your stomach on your wedding day. After all, it’s exciting and busy and, most likely, the biggest day of your life so far. All those little details are coming together, and it’s perfectly normal to get a little anxious that something might not go as planned. Just take a deep breath, relax, and consider these simple tips for calming any wedding day nerves.

Eat a good Southern breakfast

Most people will tell you to eat a light breakfast on the day of your wedding, and while I can’t tell you how much to eat, I can tell you this. If you don’t fit in your wedding dress already, skipping out on breakfast isn’t going to change that. The last thing you want is to get shaky because you haven’t had enough to eat. I highly suggest eating a good Southern breakfast – scrambled eggs, breakfast casserole, and buttered biscuits would all be high on my list.

Do something that relaxes you

Plan to do something that relaxes you. Take a bath, go on a morning run, get a massage or pedicure. Whatever relaxes you – that’s what you should do. I got married overlooking Greers Ferry Lake in Arkansas, so the first thing I did (after eating a good Southern breakfast) was go wakeboarding. It was fun and relaxing, and it calmed my nerves better than any yoga stretches could have.

Surround yourself with your bridesmaids and just talk

At some point in your wedding day, there’s no looking back in regard to getting those last minute details done. Let someone else worry about those details, and spend your last hours as a single woman with your girlfriends. Just talk and tell stories, and, if you’re really nervous, then talk about things other than the wedding.

Listen to a country music playlist

Don’t forget to create a playlist of your favorite country music artists singing about falling in love and getting married. Listen to it while you’re getting your hair and makeup done. Here’s a short list to get you started.

“I Melt” – Rascal Flatts

“Wanted” – Hunter Hayes

“I Don’t Dance” – Lee Brice

“Then” – Brad Paisley

“It’s Your Love” – Tim McGraw and Faith Hill

“How Forever Feels” – Kenny Chesney

“Amazed” – Lonestar

“Marry Me” – Train

“Forever and Ever, Amen” – Randy Travis

“God Gave Me You” – Blake Shelton

“Who I am with You” – Chris Young

“When you Say Nothing at All” – Alison Krauss

“Love your Love the Most” – Eric Church

Read love letters/Look at Pictures of you and your groom

In all the craziness of the day, don’t forget that you are actually getting married to the person in the world whom you love the most. Read his love letters or texts or look at pictures of the two of you together. This day will be over in the blink of an eye, so stop to remember that this day is about the two of you coming together for the rest of your lives. Remember your first date, first kiss, first time to meet each other’s parents. Remember when he proposed. A lot of good moments are leading up to this great moment.

Keep this perspective and you will be able to relax and enjoy your wedding. No matter what happens at the end of the night, the two of you will be married, and that’s what this day is all about.