Despite what I’d like to think about myself, I’m in my thirties, and it’s safe to say I’m an official adult. I always thought that once I hit adulthood, I’d have life figured out, but in some ways it’s quite the opposite. The older I’ve gotten, the more I realize that I don’t know everything, and the more willing I am to seek advice from those I love, especially my dad. There are a lot of reasons I look to him for advice, but here are just a few.
1. I respect him and value his opinions.
My dad isn’t the kind of person that tells you what you want to hear just to make you feel better. He’s honest and not afraid to give his opinion. I respect him, and I like hearing his thoughts and opinions (even if I don’t agree with him on everything).
2. He gives advice, but leaves me to make the final decision.
Many parents wonder why their grown kids don’t take their advice, and I believe it’s often because they push advice on their kids without respecting them to make the final decision. My dad doesn’t act hurt or upset if I don’t take his advice. He respects me (and my husband) to come to a decision together. He realizes that our being a team is actually more important than the decision we make. If we succeed, we do it together. If we fail, we fail together, but better to fail together than to be divided and one of us make a bad decision that could bring bitterness into our marriage.
3. He gets me.
Besides my husband, no one knows me and gets me like my parents do. My dad knows my strengths and weaknesses. He knows my blind spots. I don’t run things by him because I feel like he has to sign off on everything I do, I ask for advice on big decisions because he’s been watching me live my life for 30-plus years, which sort of makes him an expert opinion on all things related to me.
4. He’s quick to remind me of his mistakes.
My dad doesn’t pretend to be perfect. He’ll often say, “Don’t do what I did (in such and such a situation).” The way he gives advice in a humble way keeps me coming back for more.
5. He always has my back.
Growing up, I always knew my dad had my back no matter what, and that hasn’t changed now that I’m adult. I know I’m lucky to still have my dad in my life, and I want him to be a part of my life. For me, that looks like asking for advice every now and then because I care about what he has to say, and I want to learn as much as I can from him for as long as I possibly can.