Peter Kraus Says He Was Fearful of Being “The Bachelor” and That There’s A Lot He’d Like to Say to Rachel Lindsay


Peter Kraus is not going to be on “The Bachelor” next season and that’s because he just isn’t ready.

In a recent interview, his first since not proposing to Rachel Lindsay on “The Bachelorette,” Kraus shared a lot of information with “Entertainment Tonight,” maybe even too much– meaning, he seems very stable and self-aware. So, not your typical reality show contestant.

Kraus said he was approached about being “The Bachelor,” but fear held him back, “The conversations that [producers, ABC executives and I] had [about being the Bachelor] were never specific to ‘Yes or no?’ It was more, ‘Are you ready?’ and me saying I was not. It was a mutual respect for where each other was at, what I know they need from a Bachelor and what I know I was ready to give at the time of those talks. I would never say it was a clear, defined answer. It was, ‘This is where we’re at, and we’re OK with going in different directions.'”

He also went on to say, “Fear came from other people’s opinions, which I don’t know if I should guide my life on that, but I do take what people say very personally. I’m constantly reading how awful I am for even considering being the Bachelor, so I let fear kind of guide me. I was afraid of what people would say. I was afraid of what people would think, and I was afraid of not being able to live up to the amazing standards that are the lead of that position.”

But, it wasn’t just fear, Kraus explained that he’s still very emotional from the whole experience, “I was still far too emotional to invest in myself into the next opportunity. A lot of people say that I was very boring and cold on the show. No, I’m actually a very lighthearted, fun person… but when faced with these huge decisions that are based on the rest of your life, I take them very seriously.”

However, if the show came calling again, he’d probably do it, “If the offer were to come up in the future, I could see myself doing it. It seems like an amazing opportunity. At this stage in my life, I’m single, I’m happy, business is good, family is good. I’m ready for the next step again, and if that’s what route it took, I’d be OK with that.”

“I think I just have to be emotionally in the right place in my life. If I’m not ready, I’m not ready. I’m not out there searching for fame or attention or money, so if I were to do it, it would be because it felt truly right at that stage in my life.”

Kraus also wanted to remind everyone that he didn’t have to propose if he didn’t want to, “There’s nowhere on the contract that says you have to get engaged at the end of the show. I want to find love in my life, and if it was an opportunity to have some fun, get some experiences and potentially find love, I was open to it…I made the mistake maybe of not watching Rachel prior to the show, and seeing that she wanted an engagement more so than what I was ready to give at that time.”

Before the interview, Kraus got real emotional on Instagram revealing that he wishes he could say a few things to Lindsay, he also thanked ABC for the opportunity, “#tbt to the most incredible journey of this life time that has now officially come to an end today. As I sit here writing this, I struggle to hold back the tears as I am overcome with emotion one last time. First and foremost.. Rachel, there are so very many things that I’ve wished I could say to you since the day we parted ways in Spain, but for everyone’s sake, I’ll keep it short… You gave me a chance and all that I can say is thank you. I have a heart filled with love for you now and always and wish you nothing but the best in your life and love ahead.

ABC, you saw something in me, but something held me back. You treated me with such love and kindness and showed me glimpses of a life I never once dreamed that I could have. I will be forever humbled and grateful and will always look back at these last 6 months with an ear to ear smile, knowing that this has truly been a very special life indeed.

Upon leaving the @bacheloretteabc I was asked, “what did you learn about yourself during this process?” And at the time I naively said “nothing that I can think of.” Now… looking back… I realize I learned one of the single greatest teachings of my life;

When you let uncertainty or fear guide your decisions, you risk missing out on what could potentially be the greatest opportunity of a life time.
So live dangerously, live without the fear of the unknown, and continue to live and love with a heart that is truly open to anything. #thankyou#lovealways

Sounds like Kraus just needs a nap and a drink.